Being Me and a We

When MTFM started both Tracy and I were single 30-somethings looking to learn and try new things, spend time with girlfriends - both new and old and most importantly take time for ourselves. We are both still 30-somethings but are no longer single. But in no longer being single we both still make sure that we take our me time and do things for ourselves, and I don't have to tell you this, but it is quite a balancing act but one much needed and well worth it for ourselves and those around us.

So I plan to write about how I am keeping my me while also now being a we (as well as moving, planning a wedding, growing a business and all the other day to day stuff we all have to do.)

When ever anyone starts a new relationship of course that relationship takes precedents over all else at first, as it should. But we can't forget about ourselves and that we need to take care of ourselves and our other relationships. I love spending time with my fiance and want to spend as much time with him as I possibly can, but I found the mornings he leaves early for work - and I actually wake up with him- are so enjoyable to me. To have a few hours in the early morning all to myself has become such an enjoyable and important time for me. Sometimes I read my book, sometimes I catch up with my DVR, other days I lay lazy in bed in and out a light sleep just enjoying it. I allow no pressure on myself during that precious time to check email, do laundry etc. I just do what I want to do for me. I find I then can go into my day refreshed and light hearted. Of course don't get me wrong, the mornings I don't get up with him I enjoy those extra hours of sleep!

And really it is not that I don't want him there, I just want to be with me for a bit. And that is okay and good and I am going to keep doing it and enjoying it. After all it makes me a happier person with him and with everyone in my life.